The number one Podcast for Overcoming Pornography:
This interview with Ashlee Ayre is meant to give hope and a path forward to anyone who is dealing with pornography use in their life as a teen.
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Your brain is probably lying to you
One of the things that happens when we start down the path of buffering is that our brains will tell us things that are not true.
It will try subtle phrases that it knows have worked in the past and that have taken you down the path of your buffer before.
It does this because a little lie is ok most of the time and especially if it is said to
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An interview with Eric and Jackie, a couple who has been coached by Zach and Darcy through pornography issues in their marriage.
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Motivation and willpower aren’t enough.
When I was about 14 years old I told myself that I wasn’t going to do this any more. I knew what I was doing was not really something that I wanted to be doing but felt like I had to just get the right motivation and put some willpower to it and it would be done.
I could quit this. I wanted to be the kind of kid who didn’t have to feel ashamed
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Welcome to another beautiful mastery Monday, this is the Monday before election day. Please go vote. Regardless of what your political views are, be a part of the conversation, vote.
Our 4 year old, Felicity came to me and said “My belly is saying food, I listened and I can hear it talking inside my body. It says it wants pasta or a sandwich”
· When felicity said this my min
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Have you ever been upset by someone who wasn't behaving how you thought they should.
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Abdication v delegation
I’m releasing this while I’m walking down a slot canyon somewhere in southern Ut so if you want to get together with me while I’m here, feel free to message me on Instagram zachspafford.theselfmasterycoach I love angelicas, the peruvian chicken place or even the Indian place.
On Friday two weeks ago I was in my weekly meeting with my friend Jody Moore, talking
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Learn Something, Move Forward
Taking stock of lapses by learning something and moving forward is the only way to put it behind you.
Each time we do the thing we promised we would never do again we tend to beat ourselves up. We often treat it like we are never going to get past it, we think we are lost, unworthy and powerless.
That wallowing and self pitying approach keeps us from learni
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How can I tell that I’m ready to change?
Costs outweigh the benefits.
- Buffering provides something
- Acknowledge those benefits.
- How do you want to feel when you think about pornography
- “Client said, I want to feel disgusted.”
- That doesn’t acknowledge what pornography has done for you
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- That also doesn
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How much power does pornography have?
So many of us want pornography to have no power over husbands, over our children, over our own lives.
Yet, so many of us allow pornography to have so much power over us.
Why?
Let’s just talk, for a minute about the attractive capacity of pornog
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If you’ve ever been to a 12 step meeting you’ve heard the phrase, “Hi, my name is Zach and I’m an addict”.
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Almost everyone I’ve worked with thinks they’re “addicted to porn”.
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What if, instead of believing, “Hi, my name is Zach and I’m an addict” we believed something else.
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I used to think that I was addicted to pornography, there was something in my brain that made it so
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