This week we are going to discuss your cycle of avoidance and how to recognize what is going on for you around this cycle and a few things you can do to help remove yourself from the cycle. 

We’ve talked about experiential avoidance or buffering in episodes 5, 6, and 135.  I’ll link to those episodes in the show notes. 

Humans have a unique ability to problem-solve. From the very beginning of ...

Overcome Pornography: A Thank You Letter To Porn

This week is a really busy week.  YM camp up in Enterprise and speaking at a Youth Conference here in town.  

The more angst that we have toward pornography, we think is going to create the motivation to stay away. 

But what that is more likely doing is giving it power over you.  

I think we think that if we create a harsh relationship with...

Overcome Pornography: What it takes to finally quit pornography

1. Willingness to think differently about the problem

Episode 89 - Emotional Debtor and Episode 100 - Pornography is not THE problem 

1. An understanding of what is happening and why
2. Can’t run away, can’t push it out of your mind
3. You have to face it
4. Ask questions
5. Be willing to confront what it is objectively and curious
...

Overcome Pornography: How to Ruin a Night Out - Three Tips

How much power do you give the random strangers in Las Vegas. 

On Friday we had tickets to see Jim Gaffigan in Las Vegas. 

I was looking forward to it.  Darcy was, too. 

Unfortunately, Jim got Covid and the show was canceled at the last minute.  

We didn’t find out until after we were down there and had dinner. 

So, we...

Overcome Pornography: 3 Secrets to Managing Emotions

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Overcome Pornography: Changing the Narrative around pornography - interview with Heather Rackham

  *NOTE - This is a transcript of our conversation and may be more difficult to follow than the interview. 

Hey everybody on Monday, I said in the podcast that I was going to offer a bonus episode of the conversation that I had with the LDS life coaches. And here it is, I've got it for you right no...

 *NOTE - This is a transcript of our conversation and may be more difficult to follow than the interview. 

So, we got an email about a podcast we did and I'm going to actually release the entire podcast as a bonus on Wednesday so you can listen to it. 

We did an interview with Heather Rackum at The LDS Life Coaches Podcast and it was a fantastic. I thought it was that fantastic podcast.

Th...

Overcoming pornography isn’t just pushing a new thought into your mind to supersede the thoughts that have naturally occurred.  

I think we’ve all heard the analogy of the stage of your mind and how we can become totally free from the plague of our unwanted thoughts by just changing what’s on the stage.  

While I think this is a worthy attempt to advise and assist those struggling with porn...

I’d like to take you back to General Conference a few weeks back. I loved listening to President Nelson as he spoke about how to keep spiritual momentum. 

If you don’t recall the talk, he offered 5 ways to Maintain positive spiritual momentum. 

The five were

1. Get on the covenant path and stay there.
2. Discover the joy of daily repentance.
3. Learn about God and how He works.
4. Seek and expect...

I was working with a client this week and he said something that really struck me.  

He said the work that we had been doing made him think that he was less depressed, more hopeful, and no longer part of the addict class.

This got me thinking. 

When I was attending 12-step meetings and saying, “Hi, my name is Zach and I’m a porn addict” the message of being an addict was clear.  Once a por...

Hey, this month we are doing a webinar for those who want help overcoming pornography 

If you’re listening to this podcast and like what you hear, take the next step and come to our webinar on april 20th at 730 mt, there’s a link in the show notes or you can go to zachspafford.com/freecall

The seed for today’s podcast came from a post by a guy named Kris Heap.  in that he equated succ...

 What is pornography addiction?

 When I was growing up and as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints anyone who views pornography is essentially labeled as a pornography addict.  

 I’ve talked about my experience with the Addiction Recovery Program or ARP that I attended in both Wisconsin and California. I have talked about why I don’t believe in the idea that most people ...